What Guys Hate! (2. Drama Queens! x2)

Just have to say.... I just got a lap top! This is the first blog written on it! lol



Okay Let's Just Jump In!
This is what the guys said!



"Really Clingy."

"Self-exclusion just for attiontion."

"Supper flirty"

"Acting like their life is horible when it is really better than most"



So what does this mean?



DON'T BE A DRAMA QUEEN!



There are two main ways to do this. 1. Being Clingy, and 2. Excluding yourself. Both of these thing are don for the same reason... to get as much attiontion as you can and have every one focused on you. Ouch. I know right? But seriously it's true. Yes we all do this in some form but we are only going to look at the top two the guys talked about.



Part 1. Being Realy Clingy!



Okay this goes for if you are dating the guy, if you just like him, if you are trying to get him to like you, or if you are even just friends!
TEXTING!!!!!!
I know I know guys are so much more fun to text than other girls, espechialy when we're bored. But the guys really can't take it all the time. What's to much then? Yes it depends on the guy and what your relationship with them is. Unless you are dating and he just loves to talk or HE starts the convo, I'm sorry! Once a day is to much! Once every three days isn't bad. Once or twice a week would be great!
When a guy get's five texts a day telling him how hungry you are, what you're wearing, what your pet did that day, or the latest gossip.... He will someday just stop responding. If you really like talking to a guy here's some good rules of thumb if you're not sure if you should text him or not. Ask these questions.
1. When was the last time you talked?
Yesterday? To soon. Wait at least one day if not two before starting a convo.
2. Who started the last convo?
You? okay make him take a turn, this is also a good way to see if he WANTS to talk to you.
3. Do you have a reason to talk to him?
Not really? Ya come up with something better than that.


Now if you are in a group and alwas jumping in the middle of the circles, fallowing the guy around, talking to him even if you're half way across the room, tring to keep a text convo going when he is right next to you, ANYTHING where you force him to focous on you. He will start avoding you.

Part 2. Excluding Yourself/ Self Pitty

Okay I see this WAY to much. If you're having a bad day I understand... But it isn't going to get any better if you sulk in the corner when there are other people around. Ultimitly you just want someone to come over and see if you're okay. You want everyone to look at you and talk about you. You want them to wonder if you're ok. Not Okay. If you're having a bad day you should have a good friend that you can talk to, talk it through with them and then move on and interact with the people around you.
Also, guys really hate it when you say life is horible and this and this and this is bad and that no one understands. Seriously? Is you're life so much worse tha everyone elses? If all you do is complain the guys will start thinking that you are constantly PMSing. MAJOR TURN OFF. lol


So ladies I said this before, but really what everything boiles down to is confidance. Be yourself. Not over the top. Not all emo. The guys will see you much better if you don't do things that make them mad and drive them crazy. Just don't creat drama.

What Guys Hate! ( 1. Being what you're not 1&2)

Okay! Here it goes! I have been talking to some of my close guy friends and getting the top five things that drives them crazy! I got some really good answers, actually enough ideas to do 12 blogs! lol but I think I'll tie some together so I don't have to do that much. :) so here it goes!

Ladies this is what the guys said!

"Self counsous around others"
"Being a ditz"
"Pretending to be what their not for a guy"
"Acting like their 10"
"If you got it flaunt it, if you don't got it don't flaunt it"
"Don't put on every kind of make up you own, we don't like it"

So if this is what the guys said, and we all know we do one or more of these things all the time... What do we do about it?

PART 1~ Pretending to be what your not for a guy

We all do this every day. Some of us wake up and put on the mask for that day, every day may be different. Put on make-up to cover up the real you. Now I'm not saying make up is bad or you can't be in a different mood everyday, heck I love make-up and never live the same day twice. But when we walk out the door and go to school, the movies, the mall, park, or just hanging out around the guys, we change. Some times we pretend to be a ditz, or wine like we're 10, or always follow a guy around and talk to him non-stop... even when there is really nothing to say. Sometimes we stand back and watch the other girls (the "pros") take over, running to the bathroom every 5 min to see how our hair looks or to put on more lip gloss. Every one of these things the guys complain about all the time! Mostly the guys want to know YOU. Girls always say to me "he doesn't care" or "he won't ask about me". NO DUH! If they think you're putting on a show or just doing things to get them to like you they don't want to spend the time trying to figure out what part of you they see is really YOU! So here's what we do. Learn who you are. Yes I know, believe me I know, this can be hard. I doubt we will ever know fully, but once we figure at least a piece of this out life will be so much easier in every way. When you wake up tomorrow think to your self, Who do I want to be today? not, Who am I seeing today? or What would Bob think of this shirt? figure out who YOU are, even if just for the day, and stick to that. This gives the guys so much less guessing and so much more of getting to know the REAL and AMAZING person YOU are. Yes, they might actually try if they don't have to go through 500 layers just to see a glimpse of you. ;)

PART 2~ If you got it flaunt it, if you don't, don't.

A friend once told me that it made him mad when girls tried to dress to impress. "If we ask you out don't go find the shortest skirt you can and lowest cut shirt you have. Don't put on every kind of make-up you own. If we like you don't try to cover you up." Who would have thunk it right?! Seriously girls we are all made in every color, shape, and size. So figure out what you are and try to dress to that. My friend Ashley can't wear as low cut shirts as I can because of how she is built but I can't wear the heals and short skirts she can. We are both beautiful, but different. This goes for all parts of how we look. With hair, make-up, clothes, shoes. Don't try to be the models on TV because you never will be satisfide with yourself if you do. Let me let you in on a little secret... the guys really don't think most of those girls are hot, they say they are all skin and bones and weird clothes. WOW! I know right!? So I don't know how I am good at this resurch but could never resurch for debate... but I found some stuff that might help us all out :)

Dress for Your Body Type

How to put on the Right Mak-up

Right Hair for the Right Face

WHAT GUYS HATE! (INTRO)

NATASHA BEDINGFIELD LYRICS TO "SINGLE"


"Single"

Ah yeah that's right
All you single people out there
This is for you

I'm not waitin' around for a man to save me
(Cos I'm happy where I am)
Don't depend on a guy to validate me
(No no)
I don't need to be anyone's baby
(Is that so hard to understand?)
No I don't need another half to make me whole

Make your move if you want doesn't mean I will or won't
I'm free to make my mind up you either got it or you don't

[Chorus:]
This is my current single status
My declaration of independence
There's no way I'm tradin' places
Right now a star's in the ascendant

I'm single
(Right now)
That's how I wanna be
I'm single
(Right now)
That's how I wanna be

Ah yeah Uh Huh that's right

Don't need to be on somebody's arm to look good
(I like who I am)
I'm not saying I don't wanna fall in love 'cos I would
I'm not gonna get hooked up just 'cos you say I should
(Can't romance on demand)
I'm gonna wait so I'm sorry if you misunderstood

[Chorus]

Everything in it's right time everything in it's right place
I know I'll settle down one day
But 'til then I like it this way it's my way
Eh I like it this way

Make your move if you want doesn't mean I will or won't
I'm free to make my mind up you either got it or you don't
'Til then I'm single

This is my current single status
My declaration of independence
There's no way I'm tradin' places
Right now a star's in the ascendant



Okay so I'm thinking I want to do 5 blogs on what drives the guys most crazy that us girls do all the time. Something more fun :)

Here is a web sight by guys telling women what drives them crazy! Just something to look at if I don't cover all your questions! :)

WHAT GUYS SAY

But keeping in mind these lyrics, it's not all about learning how to get the guy. You should be completely sure in who YOU are and who GOD made YOU. With or with out a guy right by your side. Someday that right guy will come along and sweep you off your feet. Guess what? You will have no hand in it. It will be all God. Just keep this in mind as we play a little too ;)

Nationals!

- 4 friends

+ 11 friends

- 0 awards

+ 3 lessons learned

- 1 finger nail

+ 1 nice tan

- 2 pearl earrings

+ 1 summer dress

- 1 suit outfit

+ 1 cute skirt

- 3 pounds

+ 1 Adorable swim suit

- $ 1,359.82

+ 1 AMAZING day at the beach!!!!!

This sums up my nationals trip! (for all you nerds that does come out to -1351.82)

Perfect

Tall,
Dark,
Handsome.

Perfect

Fun,
Smart,
Jock.

Perfect

Listener,
Talker,
Laughter.

Perfect

Believer,
Trusting,
Broken.

Perfect

So what's the question?
Why do we stop to think?
What's holding us back?

Perfect in every way.
Willing to go the extra mile.
Sweet and caring.

Fear?
Fear of what?
Fear of being hurt?

Stupid things.
To hold us back.
To help us miss out.

Is it us?
Is it God?
The reason to stop and wait?

Please God.
Free the mind.
Your will be done.

Stab My Heart

Over and over,
I stab myself in the heart.
You should be mine,
I've known it for years.

But no,
You're with this one or that one.
But none right for you,
I watch it kill you each time.

Why can't you see?
They are just wrong for you.
Don't you know?
They don't understand you.

Not like I understand you.

Best friends forever.
Can't get better than that.
I know you.
You know me.

For what is unseen.

In your hugs,
I never want to let go.
To stay in your arms forever,
Feel your lips on mine.

Dreams.

I have tried,
To pass it off as lust,
As best friend,
Just a crush.

But it stays by me.

I'm stuck in your trap,
Trap of friendship.
You know me,
Through and through.

I'm your open book.

You're always there,
Any shape I need.
Your strong solder,
A friendly laugh.

So why do I always want more?

I can't seem to get over it,
Over you.
Why can't I be satisfied,
Being your dear friend.

Why must I put myself through this?

Stab me in the heart,
Time and time again.
But I'll hold on,
To whatever part I can have.

Even if just your friendship.

Love + Friendship = RAIN

I say~ I'm alone with no friends.


Gods says~ Let me be your friend.



I say~ How do I know you even care?

~God sends rain :)